Question on landing strip with micro bikini

I still don't exactly understand the situation. I have no doubt that a woman can have the freedom to wear that bikini to a barbecue with family, friends or strangers, what I don't understand is the reason for wearing that bikini, I don't understand why a woman at a barbecue would rather be remembered for her hair than for her intelligence with a good chat. I have excellent friends, of many years, who gave up many dinners and parties to help me with my sister and I would never dress like that and with someone with much less confidence and friendship, either.

 

Don't give up, I withdraw and no longer participate in this dialogue. The problem is me for not understanding the subject. Forgive me for having participated. Good luck.

 

"Too many guys look at eye candy as an excuse for the men who do unwanted things to women." Whoa! I feel you are being grossly unfair to ald76. Yes, I concur many people confuse female self-expression (in the form of attire) with sexual desire. However, to suggest those who do so, are rationalising or excusing sexual violence towards women, is a bridge too far. Besides, it is not only men who, are critical of a victim of sexual assault.. based on how she was dressed.

Something else, I should like to address; "To me, if a girl wished to show off some skin because it either looks good or it makes her feel good to show it, there is nothing saying "I am here asking for sex.". This is so. However (for my part), even if a provocatively dressed woman, IS (obviously) looking to make a sexual connection, this is not an invitation to be brutally violated! To put this in blunt 'male speak', a woman on the prowl, is not looking to be raped.

 

Seems, you have missed the point of my commentary. Once again, you stated "Too many guys look at eye candy as an excuse for the men who do unwanted things to women.". To me, you are suggesting (or at least, strongly implying) ald76 is, one of those lads who, is making "eye candy as an excuse for the men who do unwanted things to women.". I am not stating that, you are insinuating he is one of those individuals who, touches women without permission. Rather, you are indicating (intentionally or otherwise) he is one of those people who, condones the argument the way a girl is dressed, is to blame for her being touched without her consent. Reread your statement. If you disagree, it could be construed this way, I apologise. English is not my mother tongue.

I standby my statement "Yes, I concur many people confuse female self-cxpression (in the form of attire) with sexual desire.". However, this does NOT (automatically) make said person a rapist! Many men will see a provocatively dressed woman and think "Oh yeah!". Then, approach and make their 'pitch', (proper 'Americanism', yes?). If (usually when, lol), the lady declines, they move on. Unfortunately, some men do not.

"Yes they do use how a girl dresses to justify their heinous crimes of rape." DO NOT EVER DARE, to explain that to me!!! Believe me, I 'know'.

 

Fair enough. However, it was more the notion that, Dane seemed to be 'doubling down', on his broad generalization. Yes, many lads look at a woman dressed sexily and think (at least, in their minds), she wants sex. This does not mean, they are ready to commit a brutal vicious sexual assault. Why is this so difficult, for people to accept? Yes, I am VERY aware (painfully so) that, there are men who, use how a woman is dressed to justify felony sexual assault.

"It's just NOT." I do not believe, I ever said otherwise.