Whats the one deal breaker that will ruin a relationship for you?

Made a poll, lets see what we all think!

 

Mine is "Other".
Seeing a married gal when I as younger. Fun sex and going out to eat and such, but showed a little mean streak
now and then. I knew I wouldn't get serious with her.

But after a few dates she opened up to me about how she woo'd this guy ( her husband) for almost 2 years straight just
to get him to pop the question so that she could say "NO". ( she later said yes when he persisted for weeks)
He had pissed her off ( I can't remember the reason-too long ago and too short of a memory now) and so she came up
with that idea as revenge.

WOW! To waste 2 years of your life just to get back at someone!
I knew then that chick was going to be BAD news for me.

Dropped her off from a day out and said I was going to be very busy, don't wait for my call, don't know when I'd be available.
Never called her back and she didn't call me. I'm sure by my tone of voice she figured it out.

 

Well, been very happily married to my wife Jennifer now for approaching 30 years, ( No time off for Good Behaviour ) lol, but I can honestly say, if all the sex suddenly stopped, but the hugs, kisses & cuddles continued, I would still be a happy man. Now before you all go grabbing the sick bucket, let me just say, the SEX isn't going to stop, & that's why God created Daughters, Escorts & Massage Parlours. lol.

 

Someone who was married would be an instant deal-breaker for me (unless perhaps her husband knew and fully approved, like if he was turned on by seeing his wife with someone else or something - even then, I would feel a bit weird about it). I feel quite strongly about fidelity, and also I was once stalked by a married woman (thankfully, that didn't last too long and we never had any kind or relationship other than a toxic "friendship"). No cuddling or intimacy would also be no-nos - I mean, what's the point of an intimate relationship if you can't be intimate? On the other hand, I would be more than happy with someone who wasn't into anal, seeing as that frankly grosses me out. No creampie would be fair enough for something very casual, but would be kind of wrong for an LTR or marriage.

 

Mine was "other", and after being married two times, I'm certain of the answer...

If my marriage ends, and I end up single again, I primse (to myself) that I will not stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't love incest as much as I do.

Shortly before I married my 2nd wife 7 years ago, we were talking about "kinky things we like". - We had just had sex, so it was a fun conversation.

She told me that she was into S&M (I wasn't, but I still thought it was great that she was opening up about her dark side, and I promised to try to things with her).

I told her that I was into incest porn, and she immediately became hostile. She told me that was disgusting, that I was a freak, and that if I *ever* wanted to marry her, that I had to promise to "give up" my sick fantasy and never mention it again. (Of course, I made the decision to keep my fantasy hidden from her, but I knew I could never let it go and stop thinking about it. Ever since I was a young boy, I had been fantasizing about my step-mom, then my mom, step-sister, cousin, sister, and then when I got a little older, I started to fantasize about mothers and sons and fathers and daughters. - I couldn't quit now).

Since then, I came to the conclusion that she is a true narcissist. She enjoys everything I give her, but she is a "taker" - she doesn't really think about trying to do things that would make me happy. - She thinks everything she does and everything that she likes is good enough for the rest of the world, and she doesn't listen to what I am interested in, or do things that I might enjoy.

So if this marriage ends (and it's about 50/50 at this point), I promise myself that I will be honest with my dating partners, and tell them that I enjoy the thought of incest, and I am looking for a partner who shares this kink with me. - Someone who would be interested in role-playing, or looking at incest porn together, or talking about seducing our own relatives while we are having sex. -- I think it is important enough that *next* time, it will be a deal-breaker, if she isn't into it the way that I am.

 

Deal breaker would be if she is an outright liar. Also, if she cheated on me (with out my approval) with another person (male or female) who was not a relative. I don't view sex with a relative as "cheating". I guess I'm just old fashioned that way.

 

L: For me it is the breach of trust. We all worry about other people reaction or weather they tell us the truth. I think that love is kick-started by physical attractions, developed by common interests and cemented by trust. Deep down we all are afraid of the world, of being alone, so we look for those who are reliable, trustworthy. The sex is an important part of the relationship, but to me the little things like hugging and cuddling are instrumental, they convey affection just as good, if not better than fucking. I think I would allow my husband to have a lover, should the need arise.

O: I agree with everything, but have a little addendum. You have to be comfortable with the man or a woman you marry. It takes from three to five years for chemical reactions that bring people together to subside, after that the reality hits. You will have to live with that person for years, ideally have a family, so if your girlfriend's mannerisms annoy you, if you can't stand you boyfriend's hobbies or friends - better leave. You wouldn't believe how many couples avoid each other over seemingly trifle things.
To be honest, I don't think I would allow my wife to have a lover. I would've just left no matter the pain.

 

I would never date someone who was already in a relationship... unless her partner was involved as well.
Otherwise, the only deal breaker for a relationship would be if they displayed no intimacy or sensuality at all, no touching, hugging or kissing what so ever, even after several dates... Walked away from a few girls in the past for this reason.

 

No intimacy when it comes to marrage and no oral when it comes to plain sex